The Inner Voices That Open Spaces
As children, we depend on others to help us regulate. We cannot sort through feelings on our own, ca...
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Texts about personality, psychology and change
The Foreign Within Me: Who Expects What?
“That’s just how it’s done.” “You don’t show that much need.R...
Who’s Talking There?
When we talk about our desires, goals, or inhibitions, we often act as though there’s only one...
When Needs Become Painful
A child comes home from school full of pride. The first A in math. Overjoyed, she flings the living ...
Every decision has its price
“I want it all! I want it now!” We often believe we need to check off closeness, autonom...
Christmas: Rituals Between Closeness and Obligation
The shadow side of Christmas begins where “that’s how it’s done” becomes mor...