When Self-Images Harden
“Closeness isn’t that important to me.” Perhaps what we take to be our truth is a ...
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Texts about personality, psychology and change
Every decision has its price
“I want it all! I want it now!” We often believe we need to check off closeness, autonom...
The Architecture of our Inner Motives
Our psyche has a kind of inner structure, like a building. It’s not visible, but it is experie...
From Fear to Needs
Needs and fear frequently occur together. We want closeness AND we’re afraid to open ourselves...
Christmas: Rituals Between Closeness and Obligation
The shadow side of Christmas begins where “that’s how it’s done” becomes mor...